Definition of a best friend? Hmm.. I’d say a best friend is someone you can always turn to in life. They are the first people/person you think about and talk to when you make plans. They are the first people you go to talk to when you’ve got a bit too much on your plate. You will phone them up to talk about the most amazing thing that happened or about anything at all. When you’re sad they will try their absolute best to cheer you up and bring that beautiful smile back on your face. When you’re happy, they’ll keep your chin up by making you smile and laugh. They are your shoulder to cry on; they care about you and they know what is best for you. Some best friends would even take a bullet for each other, because it would be too painful to watch someone they love getting hurt.
BLABLABLA. So typical right? That stuff only happens in novels and stories. Now don’t get me wrong, I do believe two people can be extremely close. But sometimes, they hurt you. They hurt you so bad that sometimes all you want to do is crawl up in a little ball and just lay in the corner of the world – where no one can see you; no one can hear you weeping.
Before I get started on my side of the story, I just want to let you know that I am going to refer to my best friend as ‘it’.
It hurt me a lot. It made me feel shocked and surprised. It made me suffer. It made me cry. It made me loose hope at some points in my life. It separated me from some members in my family. It is mysterious. It is a secret, one of which no one has not been able to discover. Not even me. A lot of people hate it. My own mother is afraid of it. I used to run away from situation where it was. But as I grew up I realised that the more I ran, the more it ran after me.
I feel like nectar on a flower, it is a bee which feeds onto me. It stings me, but it fulfils it’s needs.
But then I realised, there is a positive side to it. It doesn’t just want to hurt me or cause me pain. It wants to make me aware of all the good things in life. It wants to make me appreciate everything God has blessed me with. A mother, a father, loving family and friends. Freedom. What more does a person need in life? We don’t need the latest mobile phone to be happy, neither do us girls need the most expensive high heels to ‘fit in’ and be proud. What we all need is to be grateful for what we have, because if we don’t, all this could be gone tomorrow. People don’t realise that everything happens for a reason. Through every hardship there is ease at the end. There may be bends at the end of the road, but we have to learn to either turn at the right time or just choose to take a better path that will be better for us.
The most important thing it has taught me is to be positive about everything life has to offer. Nicholas Sparks says: ‘Without suffering there’d be no compassion, without pain we wouldn’t know joy.’ I have learnt that it had only caused me pain to teach me a lesson and to make me reflect on all the good things in life. I could not have asked for anything better than I have in my life right now. Yes, I have lost a lot of valuable things and people. But that has only made me realise that life is about exploring and experiencing different emotions and memories with different people. If it wasn’t for it, I wouldn’t be embracing life. I wouldn’t be embracing my religion or my loving family and friends.
You know what the funny thing is? I and it don’t talk to each other. To be honest, we’ve never had a way of communicating. But somehow, it has been there for me and it has taught me a lot of lessons. A lot of my loved ones have had it in their lives as well. It’s just a shame that whenever it leaves their lives, they go along with it. It makes me wonder whether I will be dragged onto that path as well.
Well, I’ve said a lot about it, I can’t really think of anything else to say to be honest. All I can do now is wait and see what else it has got to offer me and everyone else.
Well I’d like to thank it, for bringing me closer to life and everything life consists of.
Cancer, thank you. Even though everyone hates you, just know that I have seen the other side to you. You are the reason why I feel closer to God, and everyone else in my life. I promise to keep that smile on my face. I promise to appreciate all life has to offer. I promise, cancer.